According to Brené Brown, author of The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage, floodlighting occurs when we share too much information about ourselves and our lives in an attempt to protect ourselves from real vulnerability. “Oversharing? Not vulnerability,” she said. “I call it floodlighting.”“Floodlighting in dating is […]
2-8th March is a week that is focused on ending Domestic and Sexual Violence and is called NO MORE WEEK. Sadly Domestic Violence is very common for women and also for men. You may be concerned about a friend or colleague that you think may be experiencing violence but you […]
The Love Triangle between Sharon, Grant and Phil in 1994 was apparently inspired by the Tristan and Isolde. The slow burn of the affair took two years to build and 25 million people watched the sizzling episode when the truth was revealed when a taped recording of Sharon’s confession was […]
According to Roman legend Valentines Day was founded during the third century. A Christian called Valentinus was imprisoned for his Christian beliefs and sentenced to death. While jailed, Valentinus restored the sight of his jailer’s blind daughter. The night before he died, Valentinus wrote a farewell note to the girl, […]
This week the 3rd to 9th February is Sexual Violence and Abuse Awareness week. This is a sector that the Take Action Counsellors also work in as part of the Into The Light Counselling and Support For Survivors Project . This is a week to focus everyone to stand with […]
Teddy Swims seems to understand the impact a toxic relationship can have on us in his interview with the BBC when he says “I’ve learned that love doesn’t have to be this thing of high highs and low lows – fighting and pulling teeth just to stay together” (BBC News […]
Feeling snappy? Boss getting on your nerves? Partner says all the wrong things? Let’s look at some ways to stop arguments escalating. Here is some great help form Dr Pat LaDouceur in her article “5 Ways To Stop An Argument In Less Than A Minute” Is Arguing Bad? Firstly, disagreements […]
Agony Aunt, Therapist and Author Philippa Perry has revealed that the common theme linking much of the people who write to her are difficult relationships with other people. She gives some great advice in her article in The Guardian on 15th January As an agony aunt, I know the biggest […]
This is just so good!! From Dr Dr Orna Guralnik, clinical psychologist and also the Couples Therapy star from the programme “Couples Therapy” on BBC Iplayer Dr Orna gives us some really great questions to ask ourselves that could help deepen and bring more fulfilling relationships with our partners. This […]
Many couples avoid ending a relationship near Christmas because they prefer to spare themselves and (possibly their families or kids) the added dimension of the backdrop of the so called “Season To Be Jolly”. Unfortunately though as Psychologist and couples counsellor Stephen Betchen points out , “some partners wish to […]
If we have experienced a negative sexual experience either recently or in the past, we can feel very confused about how we feel about our bodies – possibly loosing contact with that part of ourselves altogether. Or even experience a strong dislike towards our bodies and physical selves. For sexual […]
One way that you can tackle triggers during sex if you have experienced a very negative or abusive sexual experience is to use the SCAC approach by Wendy Maltz. This can help you feel safer in the moment: Stop – Become Aware Calm – Yourself Affirm – Your Present Reality […]
Olivia Rodrigo says that she finds out potential red flags in potential boyfriends by asking a new date “a very oddly specific question that I ask guys on first dates,” she said. “I always ask them if they think that they would want to go to space. And if they say […]
Have you ever been confused about whether you are about to enter or have entered a healthy sexual situation? One way you can determine if you are about to engage in healthy sex is by asking yourself if your current situation meets all the requirements of Wendy Maltz’s C.E.R.T.S. healthy […]
Ever wondered if there is any difference between why and how men and women have affairs? Researchers Selterman and colleagues (Selterman, D., Garcia, J. R., & Tsapelas, I. (2020). What Do People Do, Say, and Feel When They Have Affairs?) investigated men’s and women’s motivations when beginning an affair as […]
No matter where you meet someone – on an App or in real life – when you meet someone new it can be really tempting to make this the focus of your life and put the rest of your life on hold. This means in practical terms you can end […]