Here Are Some Clues: Love is a choice! You can’t make someone love you or want to be your friend or partner. However there are some ideas you could consider when thinking about your relationships and friendships: Healthy relationships are sacrificial Even if a cost is involved. For instance if […]
While many couples dream of a romantic holiday together the first trip you take could be a deal breaker in the most dramatic way possible. The New York Times in May 2024 reported on a report from Dating.com that half of all couples shockingly break up after their first vacation […]
Holiday romances can be one of the most exciting romantic experiences you can have – away from work, relationships – routines of life – no waiting for the bus or washing up! There is so much freedom to experience out of your natural habitat and also even feeling like a […]
It can be helpful when assessing our relationships to understand what is a healthy relationship and what might not be – one classic example of a relationship that may not be healthy is a co-dependent relationship – take a look and see if you can see if any of these […]
When we are getting over a relationship we need to keep it in perspective. Just because this relationship has not worked out doesn’t mean that all future relationships will be the same. Some things to keep in mind are: Accept that not all relationships go the whole way: But that […]
We would like to welcome Tunde to our counselling team. Tunde has worked with a variety of clients including working with women affected by relationship issues, domestic violence, and sexual trauma on a one-to-one basis. She has extensive experience working with young people in youth counselling services and as a […]
In their book “Boundaries In Dating” Cloud and Townsend talk about Red Lights and Yellow Lights and why we need to be aware of these when we are dating. Yellow Lights: All of us have imperfections – things that we need to work on and so will our dates – […]
Dating. An explosive world of pain and passion! The incredible highs of meeting someone who is attractive, engaging and seems to be interested – and the dreadful lows of hurtful arguments, unanswered phone calls and perhaps most insulting of all – being ghosted. But, is there any way we can […]
The Marriage of Harry and Meghan…are you one of the billions that watched it? It couldn’t have been more romantic could it – but sooner or later (probably later in their case) even they will face the reality of the day to day living as a couple. Here are some […]
We have to come to leave our parents in the sense that we don’t hang about waiting for them to give us something more” Robin Skinner and John Cleese: “Families And How To Survive Them” Published by Mandarin 1990 (page 298) It is important to look at our families to […]
Sometimes relationships don’t work out – this can be very sad but it doesn’t mean that we cannot take something from the relationship and use it to help us go forward into other relationships. Getting Over A Break Up When we are getting over a relationship we need to keep […]
When you are first dating it’s very exciting! However, safety must come first when you are meeting someone face to face for the first few dates. This is especially important if you have met your date on line. Here are some safe dating tips to enable you to relax on […]
Building Good Boundaries in relationships Good boundaries mean we can be intimate and close and yet not loose a sense of ourselves. This means you can be attached and yet separate – a person in your own right. In relationships with bad boundaries you may give up feelings, ideas and […]
Anger is not necessarily a negative emotion it can empower us to make changes in our lives and the lives of others – all acts against injustice are fuelled by a sense of anger. If we think of all those who have changed our society and world e.g. Nelson Mandela, […]
A new baby. It invokes pictures of joy, love contentment and…… loneliness? A study in March this year by Channel Mum found out that 92 per cent of mums admit that they feel lonely – with 54 per cent feeling more friendless than before they had children. Other research also […]
I was on Premier Radio a couple of weeks ago talking about How Challenging and shocking becoming a Mum can be. Have a listen…… https://www.premierchristianradio.com/Shows/Weekday/Woman-to-Woman/Interviews/The-shock-of-becoming-a-mother
